Can A Woman Get Wet After Menopause? The Surprising Truth About Being “Wet”

Medically Reviewed by Dr. Melissa Thompson, PT, DPT, MTC

Dr. Thompson is board certified and the owner of Louisiana Pelvic Health. Her expertise is in alleviating bladder, bowel, and sexual pain symptoms during pregnancy, postpartum, and throughout a woman's life. 


How “wet” a woman gets after menopause will vary greatly from woman to woman. 

Some women report that they don’t see any difference, while many others are greatly affected by this issue. 

The good news is that, if it affects you, there are things that you can do to help the problem. 

What Does “Getting Wet” Mean (According To Science)?

“Getting wet” is another way of talking about the amount of vaginal lubrication that is produced naturally in a woman’s body.

Most often this is referred to in terms of the response a woman’s body has when she is sexually aroused. 

The lubrication secreted when this happens helps to reduce the friction that is caused by sexual intercourse and make the experience more enjoyable in most cases.

What Physical And Psychological Factors Contribute To “Getting Wet?”

Physically, when a woman “gets wet,” blood flow increases to the genitals making the vagina start to lubricate itself in anticipation of potential intercourse. 

When a woman goes through menopause, many have drops in their estrogen levels. 

This can affect the amount of lubrication generated because the blood supply to the vagina can drop as the estrogen level does. 

What Physiologically Happens When You “Get Wet?”

When a woman becomes sexually aroused, the body goes into an auto-response mode and usually produces more fluid.

Higher estrogen levels can cause this process to be easier and often times getting wet happens at a much faster rate.

Do You Have To Be Turned On To “Get Wet?”

If you are a woman and reading this, you are probably thinking, “hmmm, but sometimes I feel wetness but am not sexually aroused at all…”

And that would be scientifically correct as well!

Although the term “getting wet,” is more often referred to in a sexual sense, many women have a general “wetness” that is not even related to arousal. 

A certain amount of vaginal discharge is normal for most women and the amount and type can vary based on her menstrual cycle

So basically, just because a woman is wet or dry isn’t a sure indicator of how aroused she is. She can be turned on and not wet, or conversely, she can sexually unaroused and very wet.

So, Can A Women Get Wet After Menopause? Does It Matter?

Since “wetness” is not a determinant of whether you are aroused or not, it really doesn’t matter which category you fall into in terms of the ability to have a healthy sex life. 

Some women can get wet after menopause, while plenty of others don’t and that is okay! 

If you are someone that has trouble “getting wet” that does not mean that after menopause you can’t be aroused or enjoy perfectly normal sexual relationships. 

In fact, the good news is that of all of the symptoms of menopause, this is one of the easiest problems to fix. By investing in a natural, long-lasting lubricant, you can counteract the inherent dryness and continue to have an active sex life post-menopause.

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